Sunday, May 15, 2016

Mother Of Dragons

    It is difficult to let May roll on without touching base on being a mom.
    For any parent who has lost a child, Mother's Day can take you to your bruised and battered knees. To Mother's all over the world, it is still a day to wash clothes!! and worry about feeding the herd.
   It is an unyielding gig, often without music!
   AND most moms would not trade it for anything, a mystery unfolds daily.

   I would need to add another room for additional baggage, for all my stories. So I will just share with you, my overnight carry on of mom stories.

   Stepmother of two, came with my marriage to Dr. Bill. Joint custody, and a boatload of boy smells.( I had two brothers, but mom took care of them) ( I think I was in shock for at least two years) I was young ish, and we grew together. I had never cooked before either! There was a lot of fun, and anxiety. We survived, and they are two of my favorite people. Both unique, handsome, educated and strong. They make me laugh, and they take good care of their "other" mother. Little did I know, at the beginning, how lucky I was to have them.

  Ward came out of me, slowly......and was a terrible baby......I thought.....I was in the twilight zone...who cries that much?? and never sleeps?? again I was in total shock, a complex child forever and a day. We were by ourselves for the week( B and K came on the weekend), and learn we did,so much from each other. He was a genius, and I knew I was in for a ride. We laughed and cried together, until he left us at 25. I think in my heart he had lived his full life, and was done. But a mom, never is done, we miss him.
   Hart came three years after Ward, the perfect child. ( I know that is a hard title to live up to) Never cried, slept all the time, ( I woke him up to play with him) and grew up to be awesome. He was a terrible eater, but by then , you realize I was a young mother of four boys!! and I did not care if he just ate bagels!!
  I lived at the doctors office, did not even make appointments, just showed up!! Daily, with cuts, bumps, bruises, you name it!! Once Hart had a He-man sword stuck in his ear, and Ward a jelly bean up his nose in the same week.
   Four years later ( yes I  have been seeing a shrink by then!) we adopted Emma from India. ( I needed a girl) ( I had to know the full circle of all kinds of mothering!!!) ( note. we lost a little girl from India, a year before Emma, Ami Grace died of heart problems before she came to be with us) Emma came from India with head lice and sever malnutrition, and she was the Best!! drank ten bottles of milk the first night, I did not put her down. She was in and out of the hospital, the first few months, and after those kinks...she became a super athlete!! Yes that is right, my little girl, became my tom boy child!! Rocked every sport know to man. She received the Excalibur Award her senior year, for most outstanding athlete! I kid you not, the child is barely five feet high, and for many years weighed nothing!! Four brothers and her mom and dad, had a ball with her. We still do, unless she hasn't had food, and she can bite you!! I remind her often, as we look at pictures, " Oh Emma, look at all those cute dresses I put you in!!" She is my traveling buddy, and number one girl.
    I think I was 38ish when Emma arrived, and by then, this mother business was a piece of cake!! ( and I was heavily medicated) ( Sort of a joke??)
    Being a mom is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, EVER!!! and I am still doing it.
    Never do you stop being a mom, it is a forever thing.
    So May we celebrate mothers day, I celebrate everyday. Thankful to Baby Jesus that I made it though some of the hard stuff, and that I can still remember the delicious stuff.
    I close my eyes and I see my babies, and then my young boys, all lanky and goofy. Emma giving them a run for the money, and taking over the house!! Would I change anything? Yes, a few, but I know my God had my back.
   Mothers Day in the Merry Month of May, and this Mother of Dragons says, " Thank You" to all my children, and to my hubs for being the best dad.
  Who needs a gift, I have mine.( Kids you know that is not true, mom likes gifts and lots of them, but don't let dad buy them, he needs guidance!!)
   I Love being your mom

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